The time has come for another post from the Insomnia Club. This month we decided to shake things up a little. So we’ve decided to talk about gender bending sex.
Side note: this honestly it couldn’t have come at a better time because I kind of feel like I need something to spice things up a little around here.
I am not sure why but every time I thought about what to write this month I thought about threesomes. I brainstormed a few ideas but, seriously, every time I started to write my thoughts went to threesomes. So I figured I should just give in and write about that even though I feel like it might be a little off topic (hopefully it’s not fellow insomniacs).
Now, let me warn you. If you don’t want to know personal things about my sex life and/or thoughts about my sex life then it’s probably best to stop reading.
I’ve never had a threesome of any kind. I probably would though, because I am a try (mostly) anything kind of woman. Really the only exclusions I have are things that really make me feel uncomfortable or just really gross me out.
I’ve had a few offers but the situation was never right for a few different reasons. 1) I kind of want it to be with a guy that I know and trust. That means not with a random hook up or a sex buddy. 2) I have only found one guy who is willing to “return the favor.” Meaning I have only found one guy who will have a threesome involving me and another guy.
Now, let me say here that I in no way expect a guy to ever do anything that he is uncomfortable doing. That’s not fair and clearly that doesn’t make sex fun in anyway. So that’s not really the issue.
The issue is this idea that a threesome involving me and two other guys is somehow crazy. Actually I have had some guys that just seem rather grossed out by the idea. But then when I say that’s the only way I will have a threesome then they seem taken back. It’s almost as if they think everyone is into the two girls thing. This is something I don’t get at all.
Here’s a little news flash. If you think that it’s okay for me to hook up with another woman then you shouldn’t think it’s really that far off for you to hook up with another guy. Clearly I know that there may only be a small percentage of straight people that feel this way (or just straight people that will admit to it) but I find the whole two guy scenario just as hot as the two women scenario.
And the funny thing is about most threesome scenarios involving two guys is that sometimes the woman doesn’t even want the two men to touch. Sometimes it’s more about them doing things to her. Which makes the whole thing even more confusing to me.
I guess for me I think a threesome of any kind is perfectly acceptable as long as all parties involved are consenting adults and are into it.
So can we move past the idea that it’s somehow weird or not cool or whatever for a threesome to involve a woman and two men? Really, it’s not. And if you’re a guy who is into it then don’t be afraid to admit it.
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