I’ve always been the gal who has had guy friends. Not that I have only had guy friends, but I am the type who meets someone and if we click as friends, then so be it. Regardless of what sex they happen to be.
So when people make a big deal about dating someone who has friends of the opposite sex, I don’t really get it.
I guess maybe there might be something if a guy is only friends with females or vice versa. But then I kind of feel like I would need to know why this is the case. And then it’s kind of a matter of why this guy isn’t able to relate to any other man at all. So, I might tread a little lightly, but then again you usually do that when you’re first getting to know a person anyway. Nevertheless, I wouldn’t automatically deem a guy undateable just for that.
But then there are the people who think that having friends of the opposite sex means you might be more prone to cheating. Or, I guess that the temptation is greater or something. Now that is the part that I really don’t get.
Sure, there are probably tons of cases out there where people have cheated with a friend. But, I would say that the chances of that person cheating were probably pretty great regardless. The friend just happened to be the person they cheated with.
And, of course, if a person had a friend who’s all “hey come have sex with me” that’s a different story. In that case, the friend needs to be ditched, but that doesn’t mean all friends of the opposite sex need to be sworn off.
I honestly kind of wonder why no one questions the dude who is only friends with guys. I mean, it should kind of make you wonder why he hasn’t been able to relate to or develop a friendship with any females.
Bottom line is, this is all part of a relationship. You meet, you get to know each other, and you establish trust. And, frankly, if you can’t trust someone to have friends of the opposite sex, how are you going to handle the bigger stuff?