As someone who has written about dating for almost four years, I have read a lot of books about dating. But the list of those I find entertaining and relatable is really small. Well, this past weekend I was able to read one that I can say I would gladly add to that list.
From HowAboutWe comes the new book, MODERN DATING: A Field Guide. Written by Chiara Atik with a forward HowAboutWe co-founders Brian Schechter and Aaron Schildkrout, Modern Dating, like Helen Gurley Brown's Sex and the Single Girl 60s manifesto, heralds an entirely new dating era where the world of modern relationships is as flexible and confusing as ever.
Not sure when to text after a date? Trying to find the right online dating profile picture? Found out that the guy you really like is terrible in bed? MODERN DATING is an encouraging, and practical resource for women at all stages of the dating game. Whether you’re single and looking to sow some wild oats, casually dating, or really ready to find a serious relationship, the tips, anecdotes, and stories will help ease the frustrations of dating.
As a reader, you’ll discover:
- Seventy out-of-the-box date ideas.
- A fascinating infograph on the evolution of dating from the 1100s to present—do you know what era condoms first existed and what they were made of? Or the era that ushered in the phrases “going steady” and “long term”?
- Expert advice from Hanna Rosin (Author of “The End of Men”), Katie Heaney (Editor at Buzzfeed, Author of “Never Have I Ever”), Leandra Medine of ManRepeller.com, Lauren Leto (Founder, Texts from Last Night, author “Judging a Book By Its Lover”), and Claire Cavanaugh, founder of Babeland.
- Funny and useful flowcharts, such as “Can We Be Friends With Benefits?” and “Should I Ask Him Out?"
Out of those discoveries, here are a few of my faves:
- The book is as the title promises – a book about modern dating. It’s not a how to get a man in eight easy steps kind of thing. It even goes into detail about friends with benefits and everything you need to know about it (including a flow chart on if you can be friends with benefits). There is even a section about sexting and sending dignified naked pictures. I seriously think this book covers pretty much any situation you might tackle when dating.
- It talks about how important dating is and not just dating to find a husband, but dating. I’ve always been on board with that thinking. Dating can help you figure out what you want and learn things about yourself.
- The one-date rule the book talks about -- the idea that you should go on at least one date with anyone who asks. I know it might seem crazy, but I have always been a firm believer in that because you just never know. And seriously, it’s just one date. No one ever died from going on a date with a guy they weren’t sure about or if the date ended in some tragic way. Trust me, if they did I would have died a long time ago.
Clearly I think the book is worth a read. I kind of wish there had been a book like this when I was single. Seriously, check it out folks. And if my glowing review isn’t enough to convince you, you’ll also get three months free on online dating site howaboutwe.com with purchase of Modern Dating: A Field Guide—a $54 value! To redeem this offer click here.