You know how you have certain people who like to update their status with everything they do? We all have at least one of them in our feed. I am convinced they are the reason that Facebook makes so many changes.
So, this person, we’ll call them Miss Updater and one day, Miss Updater decides to update her status about some tragically personal thing that’s just happened to them. Of course, 25 of Miss Updater’s friends decide to comment. There are all kinds of woo hoos and go get ‘em girl, but then you come along. You disagree with Miss Updater’s status. You pause for a moment because you don’t want to cause trouble but you feel compelled to comment. And, that’ exactly what you do
Well, Miss Updater isn’t so pleased with your comment and before you know it a few of her friends are telling you that if you don’t like it, you should ignore her updates. Then Miss Updater chimes in and tells you that you should stay out of it.
Am I the only one who sees a little bit of a disconnect here?
Let me break it all down for you.
I am a blogger and that means I totally get what it’s like to put your personal life out there for the entire world to see. I can still remember my first negative comments. I had no idea how to handle it and there was a large part of me that said “if you don’t like my blog, get off of it.” I still firmly believe in that whole concept. However, if I believe in that, I also have to get on board with the idea that I shouldn’t put stuff out there if I don’t want people to comment on it. That’s why I don’t post about everything that happens to me – there are some things I don’t want the world to read and some things I don’t want other people’s opinions about.
The same is true for Facebook my friends.
If you choose to post things on Facebook, that’s your right. You can post whatever you want. However, you need to understand that it’s a public forum. That means that all of your 473 friends can see it. That also means that any one of those 473 friends can comment whatever they want about it. So, you can’t really get mad when a person you didn’t want to comment does and then tell them not to stick their nose in your business.
That also brings me to my next point -- if you post it on Facebook, you are making it everyone’s business. Plain and simple. If you don’t want people to know what’s happening, don’t post it on Facebook. Also very simple.