For those of you that don’t know, I write a little “column” called Fail to Fab over on the eFlirt expert blog. It’s basically where I take all of my failed dates and talk about how to turn them into something much more fabulous.
The other day, I wrote about a huge Valentine’s Day gift fail where my boyfriend of two whole weeks bought me diamond earrings. I posted a link to the article on Facebook and one of my Chicago friends asked me if I still had the jewelry and if I still wore it. She also commented how she always felt weird wearing things previous boyfriends had given her.
I can really only recall wearing the earrings one time since I broke it off (and we broke up quite a long time ago). I can, however, recall several times where I thought about wearing them but I always put them back in my jewelry box. And I have never been able to wear them on a date with another guy.
As I sat and thought about it, I kind of wondered why. I mean, why does it bother me so much to wear them? Especially around another guy. And, if I am not even going to wear them, why do I even bother keeping them?
Now, I have to admit that part of the reason that I don’t wear them is because the style doesn’t really fit me. They are diamonds (not studs but kind of hoop like) and they feel a little too fancy for most things I do. But, even times when the occasion might call for it, I still put them back.
And I think that’s really what makes me curious – the fact that I take them out, think about it for a while, and then put them back.
I could totally understand my reluctance if I still had feelings for the guy or if it was a recent breakup. I could also understand if it was a really special piece of jewelry. But really, it’s just a little pair of earrings.
Side note: I actually once knew a woman who was divorced and still wore her engagement ring. She wore it on her right hand instead of her left but was very open about it when people asked her where it came from.
All this thinking, has made me curious how other women handle this kind of thing. I know you can pawn it or have it made into some other piece of jewelry. But, I still think I would feel weird about it. I mean, that still kind of makes the story the same – these are the jewels my ex-boyfriend bought me, I just had them melted into something different. And, what do you do when it’s just a random piece of jewelry that can’t be made into anything else?
So, I decided to do a little poll…