Can Someone Steal What Isn't Yours?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the whole concept of stealing. And not stealing things from a store or a bank but more the relationship kind of stealing.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the whole concept of stealing. And not stealing things from a store or a bank but more the relationship kind of stealing.

You have two people who are in a committed relationship. One of them cheats and then decides to end the relationship to be with the person they are cheating with. Or you have two friends. One of them really likes a guy but then the other ends up dating him. All too often situations like these leave a person scorned and they start raving “she stole him from me.”

This is a concept that I can’t really get on board with because someone can’t steal something that isn’t yours. It’s a pretty simple concept for me.

Now, let me get a couple of things out of the way. I am not talking about actual property here. It’s pretty obvious that someone could take your watch or your earrings or what have you. And I am also not referring to people as property. I don’t think that your boyfriend or girlfriend is yours in that kind of sense.

And, I am not saying it doesn’t hurt when someone cheats or when the guy you like decides he wants to date your best friend. I have been cheated on and I have had guys dump me because they wanted to be with my friends. It hurts like hell.

But that’s kind of the thing here. I honestly feel that if someone wants to be with you – I mean truly wants to be with you in every sense of the concept – then that’s that.  There is nothing that can come in between that. Sure, they might feel connections with other people or think other people are attractive but, at the end of the day, you’re the person they want to come home to.

That doesn’t mean that people won’t cheat or make mistakes – we are all human after all. And it’s not that I am condoning that kind of thing, I am just saying that things happen in relationships and how to handle it is up to the people involved.

Ultimately, I just believe that when two people really belong together each person has that thing that no one else has. And, together, as a couple, they have that thing that no one else has. So no matter what comes along it simply can’t break that bond.

Yes, I realize this could be the corniest idea of love ever. But I am not talking about soul mates or destiny here. I am just talking about the desire to be with another person. And even though I am somewhat cynical I still believe there is real, true genuine love out there. But that’s a whole other blog post.