So I don't normally do this since I understand that "hater" comments are all a part of blogging. I am well aware you can't put yourself out there and expect that every person out there will like what you have to say. And I also know and firmly believe that everyone has an opinion and is entitled to it (the nice girl in me genuinely tries not to offend other people). However, when someone puts something on my blog that is incorrect and disrespectful I kind of feel the need to say something.
Last night, someone posted a comment on my post about defining relationships. The only trace of the person is the name "callout" so I really have no idea who this person is. It was a rather lengthy comment, but I still felt it was important to post the whole thing here.
So I'm just curious. What experience do you have that makes you the authority on dating? Every piece of your "advice" so far can be found in self help books...perhaps your own? Let me guess, you have a rather extensive library at home. You sit around in your pajamas eating ice cream all night reading though your newly aquirred "piece" highlighting all the "oh, this is good, I can use this in my blog!" articles, maybe even skimming off of someone else's dating blog hoping no one will notice. Maybe stay up until 2, 3 AM trying to cleverly re-write said articles so you sound experienced. Come in to work the next day tired, hopped up on coffee and, judging by your photo, a few donuts, telling everyone you were on some date with some random guy the night before...because after all, you're "experienced" right? I have yet to see anything with personal advise. All I see is the same shit straight off other websites and books. For someone that titles themselves a "serial single", perhaps you should switch blogs to "How to be single and happy." Leave dating advise to the folks that have some.
First of all, I do not have a book. Would I like to write one some day? Yes. Do I know exactly what about? No. Sure, I definitely use books and other blogger's posts for inspiration. However, if you read my posts you will see that I clearly state what I was reading that helped me decide to write the post. I never take anyone else's ideas and try to pass them off as my own.
Feel free to check out this post: If he doesn't want to ask you out, try making him jealous (Really?)
My advice comes from personal experiences and what I personally see. Even if I use something I have read for inspiration, it is still my own opinion on the subject. An opinion that is, of course, based on my own personal experiences. While maybe what I say might seem like old news to you, doesn't mean that it is to everyone else.
Feel free to check out this post: Don't act like you don't care about sex on the first date
Second of all, I am not really sure where you got the idea that I don't ever go on dates. Do I talk about each and every date that I go on? No, of course not. I don't for a couple of reasons. I don't want to create the illusion that I date for sport or to have something to write about because that is not the case at all (I actually date because I genuinely want to meet someone). Not every guy is comfortable with me writing about them and I respect that.
Feel free to check out this post: If he doesn't call to get his hat back then he's just not that into you
I don't really feel as though every date I go on needs to be mentioned in my blog. I mean would everyone think it's really all that interesting to read a blog that goes like this:
Last night I went on a date. We had drinks and then dinner. The conversation was great but I am not sure we really connect. So he walked me home. I don't think there will be a second date. The end
I am pretty sure I just bored myself writing that. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be rude in anyway but let's face it not every date gives you something to write about and you don't always learn something from every date you go on.
Third of all. Why shouldn't I be happy and single? And why do you assume that because I am happy and single that means that I am not dating or that I would not be just as happy in a relationship? I didn't know that I had to choose one or the other.
Fourth, and finally, what's with the fat reference? Maybe sometimes I do eat ice cream, what's so bad about that? I am not a stick thin girl, I have never once implied that I am one (and clearly I don't think there is anything wrong with that). Though I would like to know how you made those sort of assumptions from seeing only a picture of my head?