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Man Keeps Spreadsheet of Dates

Yesterday, I stumbled on an article over on You can read the article for yourself but basically it was about a guy who made a spreadsheet about all of his online dates. Then he sent it to one of the ladies and she sent it out for some good laughs.

Now, do I find this situation laughable? Absolutely. But, I have to be totally honest here – I am not sure what people are all up in arms about. I mean, is it the fact that he kept a spreadsheet or the fact that he’s going on so many online dates? Because, honestly, I don’t have an issue with either.

It’s a pretty known fact that if you’re dating online, you’re probably going on dates with more than one person. I mean, I don’t know that many people who send a message to one person, then wait to see what develops with that before moving on to the next. Actually, it’s also a pretty known fact that a lot of people cast a wide net – meaning he/she sends out a lot of messages and then waits to see what comes back. So, really, why are we all shocked that some dude had dates with multiple gals?

Is a spreadsheet shocking? Not really. I mean, sure the guy might be a little OCD or overly organized but, I will make a huge confession here, I have been guilty of mixing up details about one guy with some details about another. And I don’t say that to brag because it’s not like I have that many guys beating down my door. It’s just it’s not that uncommon to have conversations with more than one guy and mix up some details. So, I kind of give him props for wanting to organize his dating life so impeccably. Actually, I almost want to ask him on a date because I might have found a person who is more organized than I am. Kudos guy really.

Sure, I guess critiquing women in the manner that he did could be considered wrong. And, maybe he was wrong for actually writing it out. But, let’s face it, we all critique members of the opposite sex in a manner that could be considered wrong. I know I have said some harsh things about guys in my head or to friends. I have never meant it to be mean but I guess it could be considered that.

And, I mean, I don’t want to point out the obvious but I am a dating blogger. I write publicly about things that happen while I am dating. There are tons of other people out there who do what I do. I don’t use my blog to humiliate anyone just like how this guy wasn’t really using his spreadsheet for that.

Which brings me to the part where I think he was moron – if you keep a spreadsheet of your dates, don’t send it out. Enough said.

I am curious about two things – a) no one is really saying anything to her about sharing it with her friends (and now the whole world). I mean, I am not trying to take a side here but does anyone think maybe it was a little wrong for her to do that? And, b) what would we all be saying if this was a woman who made a spreadsheet of her dates? Would it make a difference?